Hellooooo, you sparkly pearl,
For most of my life, I believed my emotions were…a problem.
Not just inconvenient.
Not just messy.
But wrong.
Growing up with a father who struggled with schizophrenia, emotions didn’t feel safe. They felt unpredictable. Big. Explosive. Uncontainable.
So somewhere along the way, I made a quiet, unconscious decision:
Don’t be like that.
Don’t feel too much.
Stay in control.
And if something did bother me?
“I shouldn’t let that get to me.”
“It’s not a big deal.”
“Keeping peace is more important than this.”
Sound familiar?
Here’s what I didn’t realize then:
When you constantly override your emotions, you don’t become stronger—you become disconnected.
Disconnected from your needs.
Disconnected from your truth.
Disconnected from yourself.
And the cost?
It shows up in ways that are easy to miss—resentment, burnout, numbness, overworking, or feeling like you’re doing everything “right”…but something still feels off.
The truth is:
Your emotions are not the problem.
They are information.
They are signals pointing to what matters, what hurts, what needs attention, what needs healing.
But if you’ve spent years telling yourself they don’t matter, you don’t just suddenly start “feeling your feelings.”
You rebuild that relationship slowly. Gently. Daily.
So here’s a simple place to start:
Your Daily Emotional Check-In
At the end of your day (or even in the middle of it), pause for a few minutes and ask yourself:
- What am I actually feeling right now (beyond “fine” or “stressed”)?
- What happened today that shifted my emotional state, even slightly?
- If I didn’t tell myself “this shouldn’t bother me,” why might it make sense that it does?
- Where am I feeling this in my body?
- What do I need right now that I haven’t given myself?
No fixing.
No judging.
No rushing past it.
Just noticing.
Because the goal isn’t to become “more emotional.”
It’s to become more honest.
And maybe, over time, the most powerful shift becomes this:
Instead of “I shouldn’t feel this,”
You begin to ask, “What is this trying to show me?”
That’s where healing starts.
That’s where you start to come back to yourself.
And trust me—there is nothing wrong with you for feeling.
Shuck with love,
Jessica
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