And then there was Todd who IS emotionally available!!!
Hellooooo you precious pearl,
May I share something with you that helps to understand why I shuck?
For much of my life, I lived inside a shell.
As a young child, I learned to hide.
My father struggled with schizophrenia, and anger was often unpredictable. Somewhere along the way, I learned that staying small, staying quiet, and protecting myself felt safer than being fully seen.
And honestly? That strategy worked for a while.
I became successful.
I checked all the boxes.
But underneath it all, I was hiding.
I hid behind CEOs as a consultant instead of stepping fully into my own voice.
I dated emotionally unavailable men because closeness felt unfamiliar.
I let people know just enough about me…but not too much.
I was surrounded by people, yet somehow felt deeply lonely.
Maybe you know that feeling?
The kind where everyone thinks you’re “fine,” but inside you’re wondering:
Is this really what life is supposed to feel like?
I can’t tell you how many moments brought me to my knees wondering:
What is all of this for if I feel this alone?
Eventually, I realized something:
The shell that once protected me had become the very thing keeping me trapped.
So I slowly began finding my way back to myself.
It started with yoga and learning how to actually feel my emotions.
Therapy helped me understand that I was worthy of what I truly wanted.
The Hoffman Process taught me that so many of my patterns weren’t who I was – they were behaviors I had learned… and could unlearn.
Then came my master’s at the University of Santa Monica (USM), where I studied fear, healing, and new ways of relating to the parts of ourselves that hold us back.
Most recently, I spent five years studying with a shaman, learning how to live life at an energetic level and reconnect to something deeper.
And what I’ve discovered through all of it is this:
Freedom exists on the other side of the shell.
Connection exists there too.
To yourself.
To others.
To life.
And because this journey changed everything for me, I want to share it with you.
If you’ve been feeling lonely, disconnected, stuck, hidden, or unsure of who you are anymore…
I created this free class for YOU!
FREE WORKSHOP: Getting Out of Your Shell
Monday, June 8th at 4pm PT
We’ll explore:
• Why we hide
• The shells we build to protect ourselves
• How those protective patterns quietly keep us stuck
• And how to begin reconnecting with the version of you that’s been waiting underneath
Because your shell may have protected you…
But it was never meant to become your home.
Message me for details. I’d love to help you get out of your shell and shine too!
Shuck with love,
Jessica
P.S. I have two spots left for my wellness retreat in Greece! Check it out here if you’d like to join.
P.P.S. Grab your gear from the Shuck Shop so we can spread the word that getting out of your shell helps the world shine!!!