Hellooooo , you sparkly pearl!

What are your top three priorities right now?

Please take a moment to really think about this and write them down before reading on.

Now I want you to look at the list.

Are YOU are on the top of the list?

If not, I invite you to consider making yourself the #1 priority.

It is easy to put others before ourselves. It can feel next to impossible to place our priorities on the top of our list.

The top three reasons I see people put others first in my transformational coaching is:

1. Society often praises selflessness – and, we are taught to live for praise.
2. We can avoid potential failure. If we help other people go for their dreams, we don’t have to take the risk with our own.
3. We want to be liked (HINT: This doesn’t work. The right people will love us whether we do anything or not.)

This is not to say we should never help others. The key is making sure we are taking responsibility for our health and happiness. When we fill our cup, we can fill the cups of others even more.

Plus, if you are not taking responsibility for your needs, who will?

There are new studies that Gabor Mate references in his book “The Myth of Normal” that actually point to the people pleasing contributing to health problems. If living a joyful life is not reason enough, do it or your health!

If this is completely foreign and totally uncomfortable, start small. Practice somewhere that feels less threatening like asking for a special drink at your favorite coffee shop or taking five minutes in the car after work before you go home to your kids and partner.

The best part is after you get good at this with a little practice, your life will start to look like the one you want to live even more because YOU are doing things for YOU!!

Make sure YOU are your #1 priority!!! Your happiness —and health — depends on it.

After taking care of yourself, be sure to send this to anyone you know who needs to be on the top of their own list too. When we help others shine, it makes the whole world brighter!!!